I’ve been thinking about how our perspective on a situation holds so much power over the journey. We all go through ups and downs in our lives, but someone with a cheery disposition, with a cool head and a smile on their face – seem to be enjoying their life much more. On the flip side there are always the whiners, debbie-downers and those endless lamenters. I find it so exhausting to be around people like that. Maybe I’m just getting older and have no patience anymore? I must admit that I also fall victim to the endless spiral of shame, anxiety and lament. We all have to vent, but there are healthy ways to express those emotions…
Journalling is a great way to get things out. Or maybe you can dance it out or sing it out. Or take your rug out and beat it! LOL. Personally I’ve come to truly realize that our time here is so limited and I just don’t want to waste any second. I always have that feeling of wanting more time and feeling the urgency…the clock is ticking!
After moving to Italy, I’ve noticed how much happier and balanced I am overall. There’s still a lot to work on, but the culture of slow living has really opened up something inside of me. I see the positives even in a bad situation and I can concentrate more on the good things in life, rather than moping around about the low points. People are much more open with their emotions in this culture and no subject is taboo to talk about. It’s interesting that it wasn’t like that in Los Angeles…bizarre! Even during a really sad time, we can joke and laugh and cry together. Isn’t that wonderful? I mean, we have to deal with issues throughout all our lives, but doing it together in a healthy way and moving on to live happy lives and experience happy things…that’s la bella vita! We just have to find the joy in it all. Everyone has a sad story and I’m sure there’s always someone in a better or worse situation. Perhaps we just have to concentrate on finding the joy, all around us…get the right perspective! From little things like cold cup of iced coffee to a grand success in your career – all those lovely happy details in life, pluck them out and celebrate the joys in life. Huzzah!!!
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There are definitely some big cultural differences between Italy and the US in this area… I’m always surprised here how people can blow up big when they are angry but get over it quickly and go out and have an aperitivo or dinner right after. And things we take seriously in the US… like deadlines and processes and rules… are all kind of flexible here. I think some of those differences lead to what you are describing… less focus and attention on those things that might rile people up, and then when they do get riled up, the emotions all come out and it blows over quickly.
I know exactly what you mean, Kat! At first I used to think people were arguing all the time, but they are just incredibly animated when they talk. I think it’s great that they let out their emotions and seldom bottle it up…because it’ll just explode one day! I also know what you mean by deadlines -or lack thereof. It’s really annoying because it’s hard to depend on people when it comes to schedules. Not everyone is like that, but I’ve learned to not expect anything – how sad is that!?
You know, I take this approach to life most of the time and it’s always served me well but I seem to be struggling with keeping it up since I went back to work last Monday. I better have a word with myself and stop this nonsense, I can’t stand being around grumpy, stressy people either so I better not become one myself! Thanks for a reminder
I totally have to remind myself, too…part of the process of blogging is like talking to myself
ehhe… first step of helping yourself is to recognize the issue and work towards becoming better. I think we all get grumpy, but it’s fine when it’s grumpy but then laugh…versus grumpy then slam the door in your face 
ahha!
I always believe that “slowing down” is the 1st pre-requisite for making art. Then follow by paying attention. Great post and very inspiring!
Thank you for sharing such wonderful insight.
Agree totally…thanks for stopping by and adding your thoughts!
I’m with you in that I can’t handle being around those debbie-downers either! I try really hard not to complain or whine, so it helps to keep my distance from negativity. I wish I made more time to journal, especially in such a creative, colorful way. I think it would be a great jump-start when my motivation is sagging.
Yeah, I think we really have to think about who we spend our time with! Journaling is definitely a great way to get thoughts out…and it doesn’t have to take a lot of time. Even a mini journal in your purse, jot down some notes or a doodle while you are waiting in line somewhere
Start small!
Hello Linda,
I’ve discovered your blog recently and I just love it.
Both your art and words really speak to me.
About today’s post, what a delight, I couldn’t agree with you more.
I’m a Franco-American and I can really relate to what you’re saying since the French culture is rather similar to the Italian’s.
When I need to have a plumber come on a certain date, at a certain time, I’d much rather be in the States. When I want to have a real conversation and enjoy a meal, well, I must say I’d rather be in France. If only we could pick the best traits of each culture and get rid of some others
Thank You ~
You really did put it perfectly regarding needing a plumber versus getting a good meal. I suppose their priorities are totally different and you have to decide what works for you. Although, there are folks here who are very professional…but you have to seek them out!
i have to laugh because the first time my kids had their friends over i was worried they were fighting too much but my kids assured me they were just talking i love the dramatics that seem to go along hand in hand with the italains conversations. they do say what is on their mind then all seems to be forgiven and forgotten time to simply move on.
exactly, sometimes it’s hard to tell! they are very open and honest, no shame…i mean, even if it’s something like – wow you’ve gained weight! they don’t mean it rudely, it’s totally just a statement and not a big deal. it’s refreshing to be in a culture that is nice and open!